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One of the most important meetings in a relationship is meeting the in-laws. Their approval has to be won to have a harmonious relationship in the future. A lot of relationships face issues because they couldn’t earn a thumbs up from in-laws. The only things in Laws have to judge is if you’re good enough for their child or not. You don’t have to raise a banner for it but have to show affection and love in small but meaningful gestures.
Golden rules of things never to be done in front of “To Be In-laws”
Do Not:
Pretend to be something you’re not
People try too hard to be loved and end up being a “pseudo-shell” of self which is often too hard to live up to. The façade would fall and when it would it’ll bring the whole of your life down, you might end up losing everything so be genuine and proactive.
Instead of lying “I love cooking” you could always say “I might not be good at cooking but I’m willing to learn”
Point out Faults in him/her
You’ve chosen them & you’re willing to move forward with them. You’re not supposed to live everything in them but you don’t have to highlight their negative point in front of the parents. They’ll never accept anything raising fingers towards their parenting skills.
Share your Past Relationships
No matter how forward the family is they’d never be forward enough to discuss your past relationships. It’s always better to avoid any such conversation with “Future In-Laws”
Overdo PDA
It’s extremely important to limit your Public Display of Affections (PDA). Try and display affection by smile, holding hands etc. but avoid any show of physical intimacy in front of parents.
Argue or get into a heated discussion
Try not to be over vocal in any discussion or confrontation as a matter of fact walk away from any conflict. You could lose a few wars for the sake of victory in battle.
Gossip or share secrets
Try not to show your knowledge by sharing details of things you’ve heard. It might portray you as a gossipmonger.
Ignore them
Walk that extra mile to make them feel welcome. Under no circumstances leave them to fend for themselves, it shows that you don’t consider them important enough. That would be the worst impression you could ever put forward.
Not all In-Laws are tricky like “Meet the Parents” or “Monster in Law” so chill!!! Be attentive, caring, and above all be yourself. All chips would fall in its place eventually.
That’s all for now, I’m only covering few important points here. I might have missed many things feel free to leave a message if you feel so.
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Disclaimer: I am taking my blog to the next level with My Friend Alexa 2020. This post is a part of My Friend Alexa Season 5 with Blogchatter
- Post 1: What not to do after Break-up?
- Post 2: What not to do on a First Date?
- Post 3: What not to do in Love?
I wish it were that easy. Even when you follow every rule in your book you may be steamrolled or bowled a bouncer 🙂
This is the best thing I read today! Totally agree with all the points. Definitely no PDA
Been there done that, never easy 🙃🙃
Ah, some things need a lot of practice in life.
This whole series you’re doing should be an ebook at the end… The ‘What Not to Do’ guidebook 🙂
Thanks i love the suggestion.
These are some great tips but the best one is do not pretend who you are not. I completely second this thought. Just be yourself.
Very pragmatic wisdom.
Hehe thats a great read. You read the minds of so many people out there.
U have mentioned all the important points I must say. I concur with them.
Pretend to be something you’re not… could save a lot of trouble in future.
All practical points, but I defer in the point argue or heated discussion. Sometimes speaking up is vital, not raising voice.
Ahh wish these pointers play there role always…. easier said sometimes, as I have lived it.
nice post and very practical and sensible pointers. #PraGunReads #MyFriendAlexa #blogchatter
Have lived with them for 10 years ! Some things are never easy even if you go by rule book
Very useful post. Thanks for writing this.
One can never be prepared enough to face the in-laws. Gossiping and finding faults are always a big no-no!
I agree with the pointers you have shared and these things we should keep in mind for happy and healthy relationship
Great list of tips. This would surely be of helpful are looking for some tips while preparing for their first meetup with their in-laws
These are some great tips… Following these will help anyone to have a healthy relationships with in laws
Totally agree with all your pointers. Very well written #tmmreads